You Look Stunning

2019-04-30T00:01:36+00:00April 30th, 2019|

I took this picture when I was out shopping with my daughter. We were in a vintage clothes shop and this message was stuck on the mirror.  Looking in the mirror can bring up a variety of responses and many of us will see something we don’t like. Having worked in an industry that is responsible for many of the idealised images that we are all exposed to I feel the message portrayed can me mixed. Magazines and social media may advocate self - love and acceptance but are also loaded with images of human perfection and are often filled with features and posts on how to get a better booty, toned arms and a smaller waist. All this content has its place but if we aren’t mindful the relentless exposure can also leave us amplifying our perceived [...]

Drama. Who needs it?

2019-04-10T13:49:30+00:00April 4th, 2019|

Drama is about amplifying a challenge or situation. It is a way to escalate and ramp up the conflict or engagement with someone and get the need for attention and control met. People that are drama magnets don’t always see their role in the drama though and can drag people into the chaos they create.  If you have ever been in a relationship that is fuelled by drama, then the likely hood is you will have felt anxious and drained. When a relationship is balanced and healthy it will give both people enough room to grow and for the relationship to breathe but If one person is recreating patterns from their past and projecting them into the present, then drama ensues. We are often pulled toward what feels familiar and as emotion comes before thought we [...]

Mindful beauty

2019-03-13T23:30:20+00:00March 13th, 2019|

Under-estimate “beauty” at your peril For a multi-million-pound business, beauty is unfairly trivialised. I’ve seen first-hand the effect it can have: from painting on the face an A-list actress wants to project and watching them become that character, to working with vulnerable women. I see women who have lost part of themselves (owing to illness, domestic violence, tragedy) – and a makeover and it makes them see themselves differently. I remember one woman who told me she bought herself a nail polish afterwards, and that was the first step to realising she had value. I always say it’s not just about the product: it’s the consequence of putting it on; how it makes you feel. Change the dialogue It’s easy for that negative dialogue to take over. To look in the mirror and think you look [...]

Do you forgive too much?

2019-03-13T23:31:02+00:00March 12th, 2019|

Do you think you have a forgiving nature? When those closest to you make mistakes or act unthinkingly do you have the ability to calm yourself down and think of a broader perspective ? Perhaps put yourself in their position and see an underlying reason why they have behaved as they did? . Forgiveness plays an important role in relationships and in society at large. A bit of forgiveness here or there keeps relationships growing, but - if we continually forgive someone we can also deny them an opportunity to grow and develop decent and honourable behaviour and their poor behaviour can start to seem normal to them. If we have a tendency to people please then forgiving quickly without letting the person know our boundaries have been crossed can become what we grow accustomed and [...]

Insomnia

2019-03-15T10:31:32+00:00February 21st, 2019|

Have you ever had problems with your sleep? I have and it has been an ongoing struggle at times. I know if I feel nervous about something It can trigger a night of waking at the bewitching hour of 3am. We all need sleep as without it we would die. How much sleep we need is dependent on the person but the average is between 6-10 hours. A good way to test if you have had enough sleep is how you feel upon waking. If you feel refreshed and alert then you have had enough sleep! In a culture that seems to have being busy as a badge of achievement it is easy to become over stimulated and not put in the required time for selfceare Insomnia is an ever increasing problem and at the [...]

How to create a conscious beauty ritual

2019-04-09T12:32:48+00:00February 21st, 2019|

The routines and rituals we perform each day can define who we become. Imagine if through self-awareness and by weaving in therapeutic tools and techniques into one of the most commonly performed rituals we do each day, we could tap into our own inner resources and  strengths and capture our best attributes inside and out. A Conscious Beauty Ritual is about slowing down and taking the time to invest in your own self- care because when we take care of our own needs we are better equipped to rise to any challenges we may be facing and to be of service to others. This is your time to replenish, connect and invest in yourself & capture your best attributes inside and out. The rise of cultural stress, is having a detrimental impact on our skin, sleep and [...]

Worry-less

2019-02-21T13:52:24+00:00February 21st, 2019|

Are you person that worries a-lot? Worry is the cause of emotional needs that are not met and over time worrying excessively can become a habit. Set aside half an hour a day at a time convenient for you (but not just before bed) in which to do all your worrying. If a worry pops into your head before the allotted time, dismiss it from your mind and tell yourself you will think about that later on, when you’re allowed to worry. People often find it easier not to worry when they know they’ve got the time to worry later. In your ‘worry half hour’ you can do all the pointless worrying you want. If you find, during your worry time that there are some steps you can take to deal with what is worrying you [...]

Heartbreak

2019-02-21T12:41:26+00:00February 21st, 2019|

Heartbreak. Most of us will have experienced the intensity and feelings of loss that comes with a break up. I remember the last one I went through and although it felt excruciating at the time it was the catalyst to me changing my entire perspective on what a healthy relationship looked like. All too often if we have experienced pain in a relationship our brain will pattern match to that past experience and we can become emotionally hijacked by something in the present. Emotion precedes thought but with awareness, thought can loop back around and we can become more objective about what we need to shrug off any emotional baggage we may be carrying. The post below was originally written for eHarmony. Take what works for you and leave the rest. The emotional hangover from an [...]

7 Tips for emotional resilience

2019-02-20T19:42:40+00:00February 20th, 2019|

Apparently, since the 2nd world war depression and anxiety have been on the increase. That statistic was told to me during my training to become a psychotherapist with the Human Givens Institute. We have so many resources available to us now yet more people are struggling with these mental health issues. The world is moving at such a fast pace that many of us our finding it hard to just keep up with the demands of life. The many ways in which we connect these days via social media or a screen, can, if not managed lead to a feeling of disconnection form a human perspective. The fact remains that unless we understand how to meet our emotional needs in heathy and sustainable ways we will encounter emotional distress. If you don’t know what your emotional [...]

Mindful Beauty Interview

2019-02-20T19:41:30+00:00February 20th, 2019|

Lee Pycroft is a beauty industry giant. Her work appears in glossy magazines, she’s on call to the A-list – Liv Tyler, Elle Macpherson, Anne Hathaway, Jessica Biel, to namedrop but a few. Having achieved this, many would have rested on their laurels. Not Lee. Sensing what she calls “a sea change in attitudes and the beauty and wellness industry” she trained as Human Givens psychotherapist. Now, she combines the two to great effect, running MY-Makeover, working with vulnerable women (including Maggie’s Cancer Care and victims of the Grenfell Tower tragedy). Under-estimate “beauty” at your peril “For a multi-million-pound business, beauty is unfairly trivialised. I’ve seen first-hand the effect it can have: from painting on the face an A-list actress wants to project and watching them become that character, to working with vulnerable women. I see [...]